So, we continue with Scoutmaster Minutes that help you understand why parents and other adults act the way they do. Tonight we ask, “Why do parents have so many rules?” Of course, the most obvious answer is because they don’t like you, so they want you to be miserable. However, that’s not usually the case.
In fact, it’s just the opposite. Parents have rules because they want you to be safe and happy. To help you understand this, I want you to pretend that you have a new pet puppy, and you take it somewhere to play. The first time you let the puppy off the leash, you’re going to watch it closely, make sure it doesn’t go too far, and make sure it does what you tell it to do, like come back when you call it. If it does all of those things, then next time you’ll trust it to go farther and do more things. But, if it doesn’t, then you’ll watch it even more closely and work harder at getting it to learn to listen to you so that it won’t go get hit by a car or get lost and starve.
Well, for your parents, you’re their puppy, only ten times more precious. So, they watch you and set healthy boundaries to keep you safe. Sometimes they will make sense, and sometimes they won’t. So, what can you do if they don’t make sense? First, talk nicely with your parents about why you think they could loosen the rules a bit. You might get them to change their mind or you might not. Second, and more importantly, just like the puppy, SHOW them that they can loosen the rules a bit by following the rules and building up their trust in you.