So, yesterday was Valentine’s Day. And, interestingly enough, Tony Dungy provides some insight on how an Uncommon Man should treat a woman. He says when most men are around women, they act either super tough or really timid. That’s the way previous generations and the media teach us to be. Of course, we really should strive for something in between. Encouraging – yes, demanding – no, compassionate – yes, passive – no.
In light of this, chivalry should not be dead. But, for it to continue to live, our motivation for it must change. We stick up for a woman when others pick on her, not because we she can’t defend herself, but because we are on her side and we are loyal. We hold the door open for her, not because she is weak, but because we care and we are courteous. We watch what we say and do around her, not because she can’t handle it, but because we have a little respect and we are clean. Lastly, and most importantly, we tell her how beautiful and how wonderful she is, not because she needs to hear it, but because we believe it, and we are cheerful.
Now, Scouts, you might think I’m talking about your future girlfriends. But, it starts before that. Your sister, your sister’s friend, your friend’s sister – they’re all watching you. You don’t know it, they don’t know even it, but they’re forming an image in their mind of how guys should treat them. Like it or not, especially as a Scout, you’re the example. So, you need to get this right now, and treat girls with respect.
And, if none of this quite sinks in then let me leave you with one last thought about women. Even if you don’t know what to do or what to say, whether it’s your mother, sister, or significant other, the very least you can do is be there for her. As Tony Dungy says it, love is like playing a raffle at the fair – you must be present to win.
Thanks a lot, and have a good night.
Uncommon: Finding Your Path to Significance by Tony Dungy